Just reading the news on MSN about an Illinois woman who lived modestly and donated her fortune (7 million dollars) to Lake Forest college after her death. Every friend she has was a friend for who she was. If only we can all live like this. I am sure we all come across these situations in life where we have a lot of friends and relatives (including family), but we wonder if they are as good as we think they are. We will have more of them when we are succesful and less of them during tough times. I once read from a book that financial problems are litmus tests for your relationships. I know it is true from my own experience.
I have always had a lot of friends and relatives as I am a easy to get along. When I started making more, my circle grew. There are those who took advantage of my position and there are those who helped me to get where I am. I never forgot the person who always stayed with me through my tough times. At times it is very frustrating when you are in a relationship and realize that this person is with you because of what you are now. When things go bad, you see the real personality of the other person.
If only we all can learn a lesson from this women's life and start living modestly. How can we? Don't we all need to keep up with other's in the rat race? We need to show off our luxury cars, jewellery and big homes. All those big parties indians attend in countries like US over the weekends, they end up as topics for discussions on their way back from party. They are all about who is wearing what? and who is flautning their wealth? They don't realize that people discuss the same way when they leave their party. Most of these parties are social protocols. How many of these people show up when you need them the most? Hats off to this woman. IF ONLY EVERY ONE AROUND US LOVES US FOR WHAT WE ARE, WE DON'T HAVE TO DOUBT OUR RELATIONSHIPS DURING TOUGH TIMES.
I am guessing you are a male –
రిప్లయితొలగించండిI would like to add the following thinking lines here---
In my opinion the same woman who talks about jewelry, social status etc., would react very quick and will be the first to start to find solution in tough times of her own family (husband and kids). A person irrespective of gender who:
1. Thinks of finding a solution for a problem and then plans to stop repetition of the same is wise and would be happy in personal life rather than a person who would be stuck at the point why did this problem happens to me only etc and takes days, years… together to get to a solution.
2. A woman’s first target would always be her own family success including herself. Coming to all Indian baseline our puranas etc shows who ever has plenty of generosity towards others had never shown generosity and never spent even a little bit of time thinking from their own relation (wife/husband)’s point of view, after everything is gone and ends up to be on the roads then they would come up saying sorry, etc etc., that does not bring the family’s house back, that does not bring the kids life back who needs that sorry in those days the woman were always been brought up to put a blank a face in front of her husband, woman did not have education, they do not know anything about life. How can we compare a 21st century woman to a woman in BC times?
3. The woman who donated her fortune dollars to a college is donating it after her death- she did not donate it right away- why didn’t she do that? Just because she wants to make sure her life goes smooth until then. Men gets stuck at present or at near future but a woman thinks and plans up to her kids and their kids future. I am totally accept it because – a person/family who is involved in social service wouldn’t get a chance or time to look at their own kids, what if their own kids turns out to be an anti social element. The damage caused by this kid to the society is more expensive in every aspect than the social service that the parents were doing.
4. If a person finds his/her enjoyment in thinking and living their own world the other person might spend time in reading books, some other might like to gossip, some might like to talk about status, Jewelry etc or someone else might like show offs. But when it comes to women, whatever they do or talk at the end it comes to their own family welfare. Whereas Men who cannot even find time to spend with wife and kids what kind of social service would they do?
5. If you want something could be an acceptance from the other person, you convey that in the way that they would understand and can start to think from your line. Nothing gives positive result on the first attempt one has to keep on trying until it actually happens than it shall be in practice from then onwards.
6. There is song in one of the Telugu movies “yevaro okaru yepudo apudu nadavara munduga ato ito yeto vaipuku…” why can’t we step towards our own relationship and make our partners recognize us the way what we are and seed the so called generosity and social service etc, in their (Family, Friends etc whomever you feel responsible for) little brains & then why can’t we move forward as family while protecting our own families from tough times?
-sadhikaAmma
person who admires your thoughts
sadhikaAmma,
రిప్లయితొలగించండిPlease keep in mind, these are my feelings. They are not necessarily right all the time and I may not react the same way all the time.
What I liked about this woman is the way she lead her life. Once I read a quote in a day care "Your true wealth is what you have left when you lose all your material wealth."
Not just women, even men do the same. When it comes to relationships, the effort needs to be on both sides. (This is a topic for some other day).
Thank you for the comments.
Chandu
very true quote.. it is truly reflective post chandra garu.
రిప్లయితొలగించండిSree Garu...
రిప్లయితొలగించండిThank you for the comment.
Chandu